Should Initiating Sex be 50-50?
Initiating sex does NOT need to be 50-50 in a relationship and it’s unrealistic to expect it to be. Here’s why: In most relationships,...
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Jan 294 min read
5 Common Myths about Sex and Sexuality
1. It's Normal and Okay for Sex to be Painful Sex is not supposed to be painful. For anyone. Period. (Unless you’re playing with pain...
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Dec 2, 20234 min read
The 3 Most Common Causes of Low Desire (and how to deal with them)
If you are someone who is not experiencing as much sexual desire as you'd like, you are in good company. Let's look at some common causes...
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esmevalette
Oct 18, 20234 min read
Is Sex Addiction Real?
Sex addiction has been a controversial topic in our field since the term was first coined by Patrick Carnes in the 1980s. To this day it...
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esmevalette
Jun 12, 20233 min read
What Your Sexual Fantasies Say About You
As a sex therapist, I get a lot of questions about sexual fantasies, many of them colored by shame and distress. Are my sexual fantasies...
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esmevalette
May 30, 20233 min read
A Historical Guide to the Clitoris
Did you know that the clitoris is the only organ in the human body, male and female, with an exclusively pleasurable function? That the...
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