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esmevaletteJan 294 min read5 Common Myths about Sex and Sexuality1. It's Normal and Okay for Sex to be Painful Sex is not supposed to be painful. For anyone. Period. (Unless you’re playing with pain...
esmevaletteDec 2, 20234 min readThe 3 Most Common Causes of Low Desire (and how to deal with them)If you are someone who is not experiencing as much sexual desire as you'd like, you are in good company. Let's look at some common causes...
esmevaletteOct 18, 20234 min readIs Sex Addiction Real? Sex addiction has been a controversial topic in our field since the term was first coined by Patrick Carnes in the 1980s. To this day it...
esmevaletteJun 12, 20233 min readWhat Your Sexual Fantasies Say About YouAs a sex therapist, I get a lot of questions about sexual fantasies, many of them colored by shame and distress. Are my sexual fantasies...
esmevaletteMay 30, 20233 min readA Historical Guide to the Clitoris Did you know that the clitoris is the only organ in the human body, male and female, with an exclusively pleasurable function? That the...