The Sensate Focus Guide

Sensate focus is one of the most well-established practices in sex therapy — used for over fifty years to help couples rebuild intimacy without pressure or performance. This guide walks you and your partner through it step by step, adapted with trauma-informed modifications you won't find in the original clinical protocol.
Inside, you'll find:
A clear breakdown of what sensate focus is (and isn't) — so you start with the right expectations
The full 11-phase progression, from hands-only touch to genital contact, each phase explained in plain language
A 5-step expedited version for couples who want the same benefits at a faster pace
Trauma-informed modifications: hand-riding, staying clothed longer, and other ways to stay in control of your own comfort
The three simple verbal cues ("Switch," "Pause," "Stop") that keep the practice safe and nonverbal
Debrief questions to talk through each session together