The Sensate Focus Guide

A step-by-step guide to sensate focus — the foundational sex therapy technique developed by Masters and Johnson — reimagined with trauma-informed pacing for real couples working through intimacy challenges. Written by Esmé Valette, LPC and CST, this guide walks partners through eight progressive touch exercises designed to rebuild physical connection without pressure or performance anxiety.
Inside you'll find clear ground rules and verbal cues, optional modifications for those who need extra safety or control (hands-only touch, staying clothed, naming off-limits areas), and reflection questions to process each session together. Whether you're working with a couples or sex therapist or exploring on your own, this guide offers a gentle, structured path back to touch that feels safe.
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